To be honest, my dad and mum aren't the most compatible couple on Earth. In fact, they are way too different, so many things that they disagree. Though they seldom fight about it, I can tell. That really makes me wonder, why did they chose each other and how did they make it past all these years?
So why am I asking? Reason being, I'm kind of in a situation myself. So I meet this girl that I really like, but there are so many things that I would disagree with her, so many of her qualities, characteristics, views, values, thoughts, opinions and thinking. I've been giving myself so many reasons to not like this girl, but in the end, only 1 reason is needed for me to like her.
I've been thinking a lot, I've always believe that there's a perfect girl for me, tailor-made by God just to suit me. We're 100% compatible, that everything I do or she does, just perfectly suits each other and we're able to help and support each other to go further. And this girl, just doesn't fit that description.
She calls me "old-minded" while saying that she is "open-minded". I want a wife thats one and only, who is 100% committed to me and me to her, she on the other hand doesn't mind her husband goofing off outside while she does the same but by the end of the day, they would return to each other. I hold strong values in God, while she's neither here nor there, though she did went to church since young, she also has the traditional Chinese believes. I believe that a couple should work together to build a family, but she doesn't want to work, wants a maid at home and her husband must give her half of his pay, and it isn't to manage the family's finance but only for her own "insurance".
Those are only a few instances, there are many others, but it would be rude for me to post it out. That's why I've been thinking a lot and I'd really like to hear what my dad has to say because I can see the similarity. Of course the right choice would be to say "screw all this, there's definitely one person out there waiting for me, and its the right person", but its just not that easy, when emotions are involved, logic just gets blurred.
4 comments:
It's hard to say for this situation. There's a limit in differentiation between a couple. After one side has lost one's patience, he or she may go into 'chaos mode', there there goes a good marriage.
You may not believe in Horoscope, but there's a way that 2 different attitudes that can fit into both individuals when there are needs that need to be filled. Some Horoscopes but 2 people in similar attitudes, or one's attitude that can overcome another.
From my findings, & your observations, for example, open & close minded thought is a bad thing. She maybe outgoing & socialize with different genders and not looking after her own family. This is bad for you indeed in the future marriage (if both of you were married).
So it's best to look for others that suit some of your point of views and principles.
Now you have to put which are the main principles that you put on top list, while other less cared ones are additional marks for the girls of your choices.
Why~ Why~ lol
LOL~ It's up to you to decide actually. Mine's just a simple advice =P
why did I like someone I don't like? lol
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