Back after such a long absence, it's because I had a lot to write about but don't know where to start. I was also too busy *cough*lazy*cough* to write.
Now, back to our scheduled blog.
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To My Friends Who Are...........SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly The more you chase it , the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts , but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.
To My Friends Who Are............NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
To My Friends Who Are............PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say "I love you" if you don't care. Never talk about feelings if they aren't there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart . Never look in the eye
when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...
To My Friends Who Are............MARRIED
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry ." Not "where are you", but "I'm right here." Not "how could you", but "I understand." Not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."
To My Friends Who Are............ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.
To My Friends Who Are............HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them .
To My Friends Who Are............NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
To My Friends Who Are............POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
To My Friends Who Are............AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
To My Friends Who Are............STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it. If he isn't worth it now he's not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go.....
TO ALL MY FRIENDS.......
My wish for you is a man/women whose love is honest, strong
, mature , never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish.
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1 Corinthians 13: Wisdom for Choosing a Good Spouse
Kathy Collard Miller, D. Larry Miller
Genesis 24:4 But will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac.
This story of Abraham, his servant, Rebekah, and Isaac is a beautiful account of a father who wanted the best for his son, a servant who honored his master and prayed for direction, a woman who was willing to go on an adventure, and a son who received the gift of a wise wife that his father provided. Each person trusted God, facing the challenges that came their way.
In his old age, Abraham sent his servant to find a bride for Isaac from among his relatives in the city of Nahor in the land of Mesopotamia. When the servant arrived there, pausing at a well, he prayed for God's guidance and immediately met a very helpful woman named Rebekah, who offered to water his camels from the well. To his delight, he discovered that she was Abraham's great-niece -- the granddaughter of Abraham's brother, Nahor. The servant proposed marriage to Rebekah and her family on Isaac's behalf, and she left her family and country to become Isaac's wife. When they were united, Isaac quickly fell in love with Rebekah.
How Others See It
David and Heather Kopp
"Isaac and Rebekah went on to have struggles in their marriage, mostly over their children. This doesn't mean they were wrong for each other. It simply reminds us that even a marriage "made in heaven" must be lived out day-to-day on earth -- with and in spite of our human shortcomings."
The story of finding a wife for Isaac can also be viewed as an analogy for how God makes his children a bride for Christ. God the heavenly Father sent his Holy Spirit to the church so that it would become the bride of Christ. In like manner, God wants to guide each of his children to the spouse of his choosing.
Love Barometer: How Does Your Beloved Measure Up?
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
If you're wondering what kind of spouse you'll make or whether the fianc?or financee you love will be a good spouse, check out the wisdom of God's basic description of love. He characterizes love in such a way that you can evaluate whether you're giving and receiving true love.
How Others See It
William L. Coleman
Sometime when you are asking yourself what kind of a partner you will make, read 1 Cor. 13: 4-8. It is the world's greatest description of love. Take a brief survey of what love does and apply it to your coming marriage.
Mary Welchel
Remember that when our emotions are involved in a situation, it's very easy to lose perspective. Someone once told me, "Emotions and feelings have zero IQ," and I think that's a good thing to remember. You cannot trust your emotions. They're dumb sometimes! Those juices get flowing, those romantic notions start whirling around in your head, and you can lose perspective in an instant.
"Love is blind," someone once said, and actually, it's true. When we're dating and falling in love, we tend to overlook the characteristics of our loved one that could potentially create difficulty in our future marriage. We might think:
"Oh, they'll change and become more patient."
"It can't really be bad to be jealous, can it?"
"He seems so insecure at times, but my love for him will overcome that."
"She sometimes overreacts to my suggestions, but she means well."
If negative characteristics are deeply seated in your spouse-to-be, you may be in for very difficult times.
If we're wise, we will diminish the "love is blind" syndrome by comparing our potential spouse's behavior to the characteristics of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Take each characteristic of love named in that passage and rate your future spouse on a scale of one to ten, with one being negative and ten being positive. Be aware: Assessments like these are difficult when struck with the love bug. You will need to think clearly, so pray beforehand, asking God to help you be honest and fair.
1 Corinthians Love Test
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love does not envy
Love does not boast
Love is not proud
Love is not rude
Love is not self-seeking
Love is not easily angered
Love keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth
Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
Love never failsIf you rated your beloved a whopping 120 points, grab that person and run! If he or she scored between 84 and 119, you've got a great person. If your potential spouse's score falls between 60 and 83, talk these weaknesses over with someone you trust -- you could be heading into some struggles. If you rated your sweetheart 59 or below, you could be dealing with a very immature future spouse. Putting your relationship on hold so that you both can grow in maturity and wisdom would be a good idea.
If a single area is 5 or less, consider that this weakness will not improve by getting married, and it may even grow worse since we all are on our best behavior while courting.
This is not intended to be a scientific test; rather, it is a general indication of whether the love-is-blind syndrome is clouding your perceptions of your potential spouse. You can also use this test to reveal some areas you might want to work on before you tie the knot.
God desires the very best for you. Consider getting wise counsel in order to discuss these issues before you marry. Engaged people should be honest about the weaknesses they see in their potential spouses. The heartache of a broken engagement will pale in comparison to the agony of an unhappy or failed marriage. God will strengthen you to do the right thing as you seek him.
Every year in the United States, about half of all marriages end in divorce. That's a staggering number that might be diminished if men and women more carefully chose their marriage partner
